When I was younger, I would often “ping-pong” between trying to be ultra-spiritual and giving in to my more irreverent tendencies. I would sometimes stay away from my friends who went out to parties, I would abstain from drinking alcohol, I would only spend time with...
As I explained in my last post, I’ve always been someone who struggled to easily connect with others—I’ve never had a ton of friends. I’ve spent much of my life trying to be what I thought others wanted me to be, always seeking approval, desperate to not feel rejected...
I have always struggled to find “my tribe.” For most of my life, the people I’ve considered my best friends were very different than who I was at my core. I joined Buddhist meditation communities, went on yoga retreats around the world, joined hiking groups, and...
There is a metaphor I often use in my therapy practice to explain the natural negativity bias that so many of us reckon with. It’s called the “missing tile syndrome.” If we’re looking at a beautiful mosaic, think about how often our eyes might be drawn to the missing...
In my last post, I introduced the dialectical behavior therapy skill of dialectical abstinence, which marries the concepts of traditional abstinence and harm reduction to successfully rehabilitate addictive behaviors. A skill like this can be particularly useful as we...
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