We as women are sold many myths in society, especially about finding “the one.” We’re made to believe that we have to look a certain way, that attracting a partner is our primary job, and that our partner should be our prince charming who we meet before we’re 30. For...
The messages we receive from Hollywood, the media, and society all play into the belief that, as Richard Schwartz says, “romance, relief, and redemption can all be found in intimate relationships.” For much of my life, I believed this, and I shared in my last...
Building healthy relationships by getting to know our different parts I have spent many years in and out of long-term relationships, hemming and hawing about whether this one or that one was “the one.” This ruminative part of me made it hard to be present in the...
I often wake up feeling something other than peace, joy, or enthusiasm. This morning, for example, I felt particularly “blah.” I slept later than I had intended, my weekend—which was filled with excitement—had come to an end, and I was not looking forward to getting...
In my last post, we explored embracing the seemingly contradictory aspects of ourselves, a strategy known as “dialectics” that is the foundation for dialectical behavioral therapy. Working with dialectics can often feel like we’re tapping into a tug-of-war, or like...
As I explained in my last post, I’ve always been someone who struggled to easily connect with others—I’ve never had a ton of friends. I’ve spent much of my life trying to be what I thought others wanted me to be, always seeking approval, desperate to not feel rejected...
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