There is a metaphor I often use in my therapy practice to explain the natural negativity bias that so many of us reckon with. It’s called the “missing tile syndrome.” If we’re looking at a beautiful mosaic, think about how often our eyes might be drawn to the missing...
In my last post, I introduced the dialectical behavior therapy skill of dialectical abstinence, which marries the concepts of traditional abstinence and harm reduction to successfully rehabilitate addictive behaviors. A skill like this can be particularly useful as we...
Ram Dass profoundly states, “If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.” As the holiday season quickly approaches, so do temptations to indulge in old habits from which we have already broken free. This resurfacing is often instigated by...
Replacing low self-esteem with a sense of accomplishment through the DBT skill of build-mastery Build-mastery is a key skill in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). The goal of learning this skill is to build a sense of accomplishment, which can support healing...
This article was featured in Elephant Journal. Many of us have heard the saying, “You cannot serve from an empty cup.” It sounds cliché, but the image makes sense—imagine if instead of finding your happiness from a full coffee cup each morning, you spent time looking...
This article has been featured in Elephant Journal. Tonglen is a Buddhist practice of “sending and taking.” It helps to cultivate an attitude of fearlessness around our emotions and meet our suffering with grace. Tonglen asks us to invite in the pain, to turn toward...
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