As I explained in my last post, I’ve always been someone who struggled to easily connect with others—I’ve never had a ton of friends. I’ve spent much of my life trying to be what I thought others wanted me to be, always seeking approval, desperate to not feel rejected...
I have always struggled to find “my tribe.” For most of my life, the people I’ve considered my best friends were very different than who I was at my core. I joined Buddhist meditation communities, went on yoga retreats around the world, joined hiking groups, and...
There is a metaphor I often use in my therapy practice to explain the natural negativity bias that so many of us reckon with. It’s called the “missing tile syndrome.” If we’re looking at a beautiful mosaic, think about how often our eyes might be drawn to the missing...
This article has been featured in Elephant Journal. Tonglen is a Buddhist practice of “sending and taking.” It helps to cultivate an attitude of fearlessness around our emotions and meet our suffering with grace. Tonglen asks us to invite in the pain, to turn toward...
A practice for coping with depression and overwhelm This article was featured in Elephant Journal. “There’s a common misunderstanding among all the human beings who have ever been born on the earth that the best way to live is to try to avoid pain and just try to get...
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